8/16/2007

Get Your First Date Right

Exploring first date ideas can help to ease the pressures of a first date. The uneasiness of the first time meeting a possible partner for a future relationship can cause stress, but being prepared for the initial date can lessen the anxiety.Discussing similar interests can help to decide the compatibility of the other person as well as provide a direction in which the first date ideas could go. If the daters are interested in sports such as golf or tennis, suggest a non-competitive game for fun. Talking about the sport can help to allow a smooth flow to the conversation. Offering non-critical advice can not only improve one’s game but also can add to the conversation as well. Another first date idea can be a comfortable dinner at a reasonably priced restaurant. Having an enjoyable meal offers a chance for the couple to enjoy each other’s company while getting to know each other better. Discussing topics in the media or of interest can give you information and insight into the other person's thoughts and ideas. Conversation is a great way to get to know a bit more about the other person and allow them to get to know you as well. Going to a movie or a show and then using the discussion of the content of the movie as the conversation icebreaker over a coffee or drink is a wonderful first date idea. Always consider the other person when selecting first date ideas as this will help to make the evening a pleasurable experience for both of you. Choosing an extremely daring activity without previous discussion may result in a cancelled date or a short evening. The cost of the first date will also need to be considered as it is no longer the responsibility of the man to pay. There is a loosely used rule of thumb which stated that the one who asked for the date would assume the responsibility of the costs. This is not always the case now, so attend the date prepared for anything. Having a discussed plan for the date with the other person will allow him or her to dress properly and be prepared for what you have planned. In some situations you may find that your ideas for a first date are not well received by your date. At that time you need to consider alternatives and perhaps even ask your date what they would like to do. Remaining flexible and willing to make changes in the evening based on what you learn about the other person is key to having a successful first date.
Terry Roberts is a professional translator and linguist, with a wide range of interests. To read more about first dates, and about dating in general, please visit his website: Cheap Date Ideas.